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What a delightful conversation! It was refreshing to hear a complete rejection of the idea of 'only boys can do this' and 'girls should do that'. I also love that Abigail's husband is a house dad, as someone who was raised by her dad as well.

I do wonder, though, if the complete rejection of gender is missing something. For instance, when Favale says, "you might have a woman whose individual femininity resembles typical masculinity in the world. That's true, but that doesn't then make her masculine." That might be metaphysically true, but that doesn't reflect the way society views her. And it might not reflect the way she views herself!

I just don't see us getting rid of the concept of gender (and saying anything a woman does is feminine does negate the concept). The alternative - divorcing gender from sex - is actually quite close it seems to me to what both you and Favale desire. I wish this conversation explored that directly. It has sounded like Favale is supportive of legislation that would endanger trans students, and I honestly am curious why, given that the LGBTQ movement shares the goal of a world where kids can express themselves fully regardless of society's retrograde expectations of what a kid of a specific sex can do.

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